Most of us think intergenerational trauma means obvious harm… yelling, neglect, abuse. But more often, it shows up quietly. In moments that look like parenting. The feelings we couldn’t tolerate as children don’t disappear. They stay in the body. In memory. In how we relate to others. And when they feel too overwhelming, we find ways to push them away… sometimes by placing them onto someone more vulnerable. If you are the one doing the humiliating, you don’t have to feel humiliation. So what get